Shepherding Those Under Pressure
29 10 2011Certain people ought to be required to wear a label that says,
“Warning: Contents under Pressure.” Nearly every Pastor has applied
pressure on a person and gotten a reaction similar to a bottle of soda
exploding. When that response occurs, one of two things often happens.
Either the Pastor becomes gun-shy and afraid of ever applying pressure
again, or he gives an explosive reply himself and adds pressure to an
already pressurized situation. In order for Pastors to be able to balance
applying the right amount of pressure to people and responding
correctly to their reactions, we must have a solid, biblical understanding of
pressure.
First, we must remember that pressure can be a good thing if it is for the
good of the individual. God is our example for knowing how and when to
apply that kind of pressure—pressure that brings about change in the lives
of others. His chief agent is the Holy Spirit, without which nobody would
ever realize his need for a Savior. What Christian has not found himself
under the conviction of the Holy Spirit and been brought to a place of decision
because of His pressure? James 1:2-4 says that we should rejoice at the pressure
God brings into our lives; it enables us to become what God wants us to be and
is for our good. Unfortunately, Pastors often apply pressure in order to see a
job completed, not for the good of the person involved.
Second, we must know how much pressure to apply to a person. 1 Corinthians
10:13 tells us that God, the master manager of pressure, never
gives us more than we can bear; He always gives the perfect amount.
People don’t come with pressure indicators or warning labels, so how
do we humans know how to give the right amount of pressure?
If we have our peoples good in mind, we will consider the agents of
pressure (i.e., the Holy Spirit, a husband or wife, or assignments at work)
that may already be at work in an individual, outside the workplace. In
other words, we need to keep a ministry mind-set while being a Pastor.
We should not be afraid to ask personal questions in order to get to know
them better and find out what’s really going on in their lives. Knowing,
then, the pressures already going on in a person’s life ought to affect how
much pressure we apply at work. For instance, if I know that one of our people
had a tremendously stressful weekend, I may postpone a
pressure-causing meeting with him until later in the week. Notice that I’m
not removing the pressure, just waiting for the right time to apply it. Our
knowledge of pressures outside of church may allow us to use the pressure
we’re applying to help this person in another area of his life.
But then, how do we know if we’re about to apply too much pressure?
Remember three things. First, a little pain is not a bad thing. Everyone
who exercises regularly knows that there will always be a certain amount
of stretching and pain in order to stay in shape. The same is true in the
lives of individuals: the pain of the pressure keeps people growing, improving,
and learning. The answer is never to remove all pressure. We should
always be tracking the growth of our people to see who needs new pressure
or pressure in a different area to keep them growing. Their growth is the
reward of the Pastor who applies a little pain in the process.
Second, we must remember that each point of pressure must be applied
by someone with an eternal perspective. In other words, we’re not trying to
quickly solve all of our peoples problems or bring him to a place of
perfection all at once. The weightlifter who now bench presses 300
pounds did not start with 300 pounds: he worked with smaller amounts of
weight and added pound by pound as he grew stronger. We must continue
to add pressure to our people but not all at once.
Third, we must make it as easy as possible for our people to let us
know in the right way that they are under pressure. We should keep an
open-door policy, make routine trips into their lives to give them
the opportunity to flag us down and let us know what is going on, ask them
questions on a routine basis, and ask others that work with them how they
are doing. We must be looking for the other areas of pressure in their lives
and keeping good track of them.
In short, in order for us to manage pressure correctly, we must be more
concerned with helping our people grow spiritually than we are with
getting a job done.